Mental Health Monday: The Secret of a Happy Marriage

I’m writing this a day late because I’m in Fairhope, Alabama, with girlfriends and I was on the road yesterday. This will be quick. I’m continuing reading Alice LaPlante’s incredible novel, Turn of Mind (see my post about this a couple of weeks ago here). Today I’ll just share two more quotes. The first one is about marriage:

And then, after a month or so, the trouble passed. As it always did between James and me. You learn, you grieve, you forgive, or at least you accept. That’s why we’ve lasted. That’s how we’ve endured. The secret of a happy marriage: not honesty, not forgiveness, but acceptance that is a kind of respect for the other’s right to make mistakes.

Acceptance. Respect for the other’s right to make mistakes. Wow. Just wow.

And one more, this one about the caregiver’s expectations of herself (when her mother/loved one has Alzheimer’s):

And you are expected to go on loving them, even when they are no longer there. You are supposed to be loyal. It’s not that other people expect it. It’s that you expect it of yourself. And you long for it to be over soon.

Yes.

I’ll close with a couple of photos taken just after sunset on the Mobile Bay last night. What a beautiful place this is!

Susan Marquez and Daphne Davenport launching the lantern...

Susan Marquez and Daphne Davenport launching the lantern…

Susan Marquez and Daphne Davenport watching the lantern they just launched. Magical.

Susan Marquez and Daphne Davenport watching the lantern they just launched. Magical.

Me with Daphne Davenport

Me with Daphne Davenport

Ren Hinote (our hostess), me and Susan Marquez on the pier behind Ren's house

Ren Hinote (our hostess), me and Susan Marquez on the pier behind Ren’s house

sunset

 

 

 

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